Seriously. Why is parenting so dang hard? There are easy answers to NOTHING.
Celia has been pretty naughty the past two days. Like, way over the top mouthy, sassy, disobediant, and just flat out mean to me.
So first, I try and figure out why. Well, she had the sniffles over the weekend. Maybe she’s still not feeling well? Seem fine though. Earlier this week I thought she had some allergy stuff going on (clear runny nose, mostly when we go outside) so I have her Zyrtec Sunday and Monday. Are her allergies making her feel bad and act up….or is she having some kind of Zyrtec rebound/hangover? She’s been complaining that her legs hurt. Growing pains? My kids are usually fussy and sleepy when they are growing, so maybe that’s it. Last night, she complained of one ear hurting when she yawned or swallowed. Ear infection, or was she just sleeping on it funny? Lastly, she is hot. All of the time. Not fevered hot, just wants to take her clothes off hot. Whine at mom “I’m hoooooooooot” all day like kind of hot.
And of course, I have to wonder if there’s some exotic, deadly disease that manifests as hurt legs, crankiness, and being hot all of the time. Probably not, but I can’t just NOT consider it.
Maybe it’s nothing IN her, but everything around her. Of course, we’re out of town. So she’s missing her dad, her brother, her dog, her cats. We’re in a different environment, and the baby is getting lots of attention. I’m being very careful to fawn over her as well and not pay TOO much attention to the baby, but still. She is used to being the baby here when we visit, on having all of the grownups focused on her. Maybe that’s it.
Of course, no matter the reason, the behavior is NOT okay. So then I struggle with the “should I ignore it because she’s seeking negative attention and if I ignore it (and reinforce the positives) she will stop the bad behavior” or, “is this behavior that is becoming a habit and must be dealt with now”.
With each and every little and big thing she does, I have to go through all this.
Last night, we had a 2 hour powerstruggle/meltdown/fit of epic proportions all because she refused to politely ask me for juice. She INSISTED on demanding the juice.
When I told her that I would not get her juice until she asked politely, she yelled some more, made faces…ended up being sent up to our room. More screaming, etc.
It was miserable. I was miserable. The rest of the family was terrified (my poor sister in law thinks it’s a glimpse of what’s to come for her. I explained that either we didn’t go through this with Jordan, or else I blocked it out for being so terrible).
And while she never got her juice….I’m pretty sure she still had the power, because she totally dominated the household with her screams, kicks, and throwing of ponies all evening long.
Advice? I certainly need it!